What do you think about slowing down contact with the WAS when there's OW/OM?
Is it "out of sight, out of mind," if we don't pursue?
Say the WAS is open to seeing you, but the spouse also has OW or OM, would it be better to see the S and compete with the OP, or cease contact and hope they will not turn more to the OP?
And what about going totally dark in this situation, good or not?
