It sounds like your answering when he calls. I wouldn't be doing that! If W is there, let her answer. If she is not, let it go. I assume you have caller ID.
Quote: I feel like if W took the step of cutting off contact (or even asking him to back off for a while), that OM would either a) move on, or b) hang himself with his neediness. But W is hesitant to take that step, which makes me feel a little foolish for letting it slide.
I'm not sure I understand this. Sounds like you are saying you think you have the formula to break them up and feel foolish for not making W go through with it. Seems like a bad idea all around. You are not in charge of breaking them up. Sorry if I am off base. Haven't read your whole thread...
BTW I was struck by the title, because in my case, OM called the house AFTER wife had moved out. He always called her cell before then. I answered (knowing who it was from caller ID and half assuming it was wife at his house or something). He pretended to have the wrong number and hung up. I'll never understand that one. He had to have known she moved out. Maybe he was going to tell me something and chickened out, LOL.
