I think it is a good sign that your H wants to see you, regardless of the reason (guilt, jealousy). Like i said yesterday, use these times to your advantage. I stopped talking about our R and suspected OW with my H, and it seems like that may be the reason things are a little more positive.
Just for clarification: my H is the one who wanted this separation...i left the house, basically b/c i had no choice. When we first separated, he said i had more options of where to go. The second time i left our home, it was b/c he basically harrassed me into it...not really my choice.
I suspect that my H has an OW...he has denied it for over a year, but there are only so many times i can turn a blind eye to his suspicious activities. My thread is here under "wow i am not alone." I also posted in "we're separated - what now" under "separated 10 months." There's some other info in "MLC" under "is this an MLC?"
There are no guarantees on what will work...every sitch is different. I will tell you that when my H and i first separated, i did suspect an OW. We dated for about 6 weeks before my H decided that he really did want to work on our M. I believe that the dating and fun times we were having really contributed to his decision to try and make the M work. We continued to date after that and it really was great. Its unfortunate that i am still in this sitch, but i do believe that the dating was a positive influence on our R. Just don't talk about your R or OW...it will undo whatever positive steps you have taken.
