Hi Rere- I read your post and wanted to respond, as i have a bit of experience with this. Without getting into too much detail about my sitch, as i don't want to hijack your thread, i will tell you about my experience. My H and I have been separated for over 1 year. When we first separated, it was a "therapeutic separation" - we were in MC and dating weekly. It was a little strange at first, but once we got the hang of it, it was the best thing. At that time, i suspected an OW. So, i constantly wondered if he had her at our house and if he was dating her too. A few weeks into the dating, i kind of broke down on a date and said i wanted to come home, etc. Needless to say, that was a disaster. After that, we decided that dates were to be fun only...no R talk. I honestly believe that the dating really helped us to repair our R...we started communicating better and agreed that once we reconciled, we would continue to date, as we had stopped having fun in our M. Unfortunately, some other stuff happened, which is why we are still separated. But, i do not regret the dating at all. If your H is up for it, i say do it. The reason he is doing it (guilt, etc) doesn't really matter. Use the opportunity to make him remember why he married you and to rekindle those feelings. Focus on you and him...don't talk about OW or R...just have fun....it will make him want to spend more time with you if it is enjoyable.
