Thanks for the suggestion. I do plan on asking some reasonable questions once I'm not so upset...most likely in our MC's office tomorrow. Right now I'm still seeing red.
My main issue with what he was doing is that he was lying to me about it, it's not so much that he was viewing it (except for the fact that I'm not reaping any benefits from it). I had asked him several times in the past if he ever viewed porn, and even told him that it was ok if he did as long as it wasn't hidden from me and I, as I said, reaped the benefit.
He did assure me that there wasn't anyone else, at which time I told him that's good...because if I ever found out there was, that would be the end of our M....If he chose to have an A with someone then I wouldn't allow him back in my life. He knows that means HE would be finding himself a new place to live and he wouldn't have interaction with our S on a regular basis either. I didn't say that, but he knows it. I'm staying away from D talk though, because it's not what either of us wants.
