I do fully intend to address his unwillingness to do the assignments we're given next week in the C's office.
I sometimes wonder if it's a matter of he talks himself out of the assignments. You know, he probably means to go through with it when he says "yes" in her office....then later comes up with excuses (that are valid to him) as to why he can't, or even worse (and I'm sure this happens to) assumes that I won't because of (being tired, headache etc) whatever reason...which he also knows is not gonna fly. THAT, to me is what really needs to be looked at.
Perhaps it's a combination of both that need to be looked at, and really....those are things we do talk about in the sessions. That's partly where my frustration comes in so much lately, these are both big issues. H makes tiny improvements here and there, but still for whatever reason still doesn't "do" whatever it is he needs to do to get over the hump to really improve. He still says he doesn't know why he doesn't do things...he says he thinks about sex, but doesn't know why he doesn't tell me that. He says he lays in bed or sees me during the day and thinks about having sex with me....but doesn't act on it and doesn't know why.
You know....It's possible he truly doesn't know the answer to those things. I guess I'm getting frustrated because from my perspective...it doesn't really matter if he knows "why" he doesn't do something, just that he makes the effort to "do" it. Hmmmm....that made me think of something...perhaps he's getting too caught up in figuring it out rather than just "doing" it. I dunno.
