Gel

I wouldn't let him speak for you at the counselor's. I guess when I think of counseling it seems it would be a safe place to vent and be honest. Because a counselor could be there to control anger or hurt and make suggestions. I would just be honest with her and out it all on the table. That he didn't step up to the plate. That he didn't initiate. And that he hasn't done any kissing.
That always makes me mad when people speak for me, lol.

Why is it you think he fears you will expect sex all the time. Does he just feel like he isn't capable of ML a lot? Like he just simply couldn't?

If my husband had this reaction I know I would take it personally? I am so bad at doing things like that. Not so much anymore but sometimes it just rares it's ugly head with me. I would feel like why does he see it as a chore or a demand to ML to his wife.

Maybe you shouldn't have mentioned to him you got your period. Just to see if he initiated anything. Because if he did you could have said well I can't but there is something I can do for you.