I'm trying soooo very hard to get in the frame of mind I need to be in to do just what NOP's suggested for tonight, but it's going to take some doing on my part. LOL
As for how many viable days were there for him to follow through in the last 2-weeks...let me see. I honestly let him off the hook the 1st night since I didn't want him feeling pressured, probably shouldn't have done that in hindsight. So really last week was out, although had her assignment really been to do it 3x in a row that week, it still wouldn't have worked for that week. BUT this week is a different story. We had discussed that since he was going back on night shift that if anything was going to happen that we'd have to both agree to when he got home from work, he said ok to that and that's why we did ML that one night....he's had every night this week to step up and help me with this, but hasn't. We see our MC tuesday next week for our next appointment....so he still has four more nights, in total though he's had 10 nights to pick from; so the assignment was not undoable. If we can manage to do something, even 2-3 of the remaining nights, I will still chalk the assignment up to a success (where he's concerned anyway), because it'll still be much more than he's done in the past.
I still truly believe though he's letting this resistence thing get in his way. He knows (and has said) that he's afraid if he does this so many times a week that I'll expect it from now on.....so instead of working through it, even just for the sake of the assignment, he still sits back and doesn't do it. I know our C will know that though, and she'll address it.
Part of me also wonders though if there's not a part of him that doesn't want to increase his SD. I'm just guessing here, but since he's had sex used as a manipulative tool against him in the past.....wouldn't it stand to reason (in his mind anyway) that not increasing his libido would benefit him, I mean....if he truly doesn't want it...then I can't use it against him (not that I ever would.)
Thinking from a perspective that might try to rationalize resisting and not taking action....that's one thought that came to mind regarding his lack of "action". I don't know if there's any merit to it though.
