Do I think he has an aversion to initiationg......uh, DUH! LOL Yes, this is a HUGE hurdle for him.
I like your suggestion, but in some ways he's already doing this....initiating for one week, but that's only one time. He will do it once, and that's it....not more than once in a row. If she were to give him an assignment to initiate ML more than once a week....at least at this time, it wouldn't get done...he'd bury his head in the sand.
Right now he's got such a fear (and it's an obvious one) that if he starts ML more often that I'm going to expect him to do this ALL THE TIME....this is where quite a bit of his resistance to upping the frequency comes from. I believe even if he had wanted to have sex last night...he probably still wouldn't have done it.
With him....she's going to have to very slowly up the ante in the assignments.
