W has ramped up the contact with me since returning from her trip to Vegas. We have set a record for number of txt msg. Yesterday I finally had enough of punching little buttons and just called her. We talked off and on for the rest of the day. The subject matter was the usual kid logistics and a few X-mas plans but with a lot of chit chat and humorus stuff thrown in too.
I wondered if the excessive texting was her attempt to keep calls to/from me off of OM's phone records. (Reminder: calls are free between our cell phones. Text msg is free for her but it costs me a few cents each time.) She even called me from FIL's house twice while she was checking up on him. It costs FIL $$$ to call me so why else would she use his phone over a free call from her/OM phone. Hmmmmm.
Today has been a mix of txt msg and phone calls. The txt msgs are very friendly and inquizitive. My mom called today to finalize plans and logistics for the holiday weekend. She asked if W was coming to the family gathering at mom's on the 23rd. I had not even asked W to attend b/c I knew she wouldn't either due to she just didn't want to or because she didn't want to make everyone else "uncomfortable". Mom has a small gift for W so she said W was welcome to come. Later I called W to officially tell her she's welcome to come to mom's house. W said she'd think about it, but soon said that she didn't want to make everyone uncomfortable. "Right now I don't feel right about going. Don't get all bent out of shape about it. It just feels weird at this time." is what she said. She said to thank my mom for the offer. The implication was that in the future she could be willing to attend those sort of family things. Hmmmmmm.
Looks like more patience and continued confident leading are in order.
