I'm sorry you've had a rough stretch. And don't worry that you didn't feel like being upbeat when you took the kids to see Santa; we all have times we can't do it; I know I have many. Did you read Divorce Remedy? I have so many books but this one really offers good advice and techniques. Seeing as you post here, you may already have it. About the confidence thing, maybe just keep at it? I made a lot of positive changes after WAH moved out, and he has commented (over time) that he notices them. Maybe she just needs a little more time?
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
