Forgot to mention that W called today to tell me that FIL was turned down to enter the Veteran's Administration (VA) nursing home. She's told me that FIL is none of my business now but she still vents to me about it. I validated of course. This is a bummer for two reasons:
1. Obviously FIL needs to be in a home. He can't care for himself due to diagnosed dementia, but physically he's okay. Stupid governement.
2. One of the reasons W lives where she does, is b/c it's 10 minutes from FIL. If he moved to a home it would be here in the city. Currently she "looks in on him" most every day. So FIL moving would be one less excuse for her to stay put.
I know #2 sounds a little self serving and probably has nothing to do with why W moved out there. But I need all the help I can get and if W's needing to help her F has even the most minute affect on her reasoning to stay out there...
Guess I'll have to just accept this as a chance to validate and be compassionate. Probably more productive than removing FIL from her list of "excuses".
