Quote: Snooping is a huge temptation but really gets you into trouble. I snooped to the extreme, and uncovered more then I ever wished to know. Then you are stuck with that information in your head and it will drive you nuts. I had to stop, or it would have destroyed me.
I have just learned that lesson. I was doing well, and I went into W's VMs - what I found there hurt me badly. Then, not much later, I found a way into her internet email account (I do think it is almost like she wanted me to find these things, but that's another lesson for another day), and what I found there completely and totally broke my heart. I found myself unable to do anything, and of course the first time she did something that upset me, I fell off the DB wagon. I confronted her, I accused her, I put her in a very uncomfortable situation. And by sunrise, we were getting a sep, when we were doing pretty well the day before. Of course I had to admit to my snooping to explain how I knew these things. I don't know for sure, but that snooping might have cost me my M. I would do anything to change the events that led up to that. Anything to rid my brain of the knowledge I now have, and anything to rid our R of the toxic fumes of the snooping and its aftermath. Too bad none of it, none of it at all, can be undone.
So I guess I have to say that I'm not a big snooping fan. It doesn't seem to get you where you want to go. It's the intuitive thing to think, that if I can find out about this person and maybe confront them, maybe they'll scare off and you and S can try to work on things, but it doesn't really work that way.
Out with the old, in with the new
2006 will be better than 2005
