NY survivor, Didn't know there was such a thing as a penis enlarger--that is funny!
Well, like me, ahem... you probably never needed one! But anyway, the moral of the story is that I learned to stop bothering with finding stuff out, and to take the high road instead, because I'm the... ummm... bigger man.
I figure that nothing I find out is worse than the way H treats me or the horrible things he has accused me of or said to me... And in my sitch, there is somewhat of a benefit to it, I believe. My H is spending our mutual money fast and furious... blowing our life's savings... I have already seen an attorney and he says the only way I can stop the spending is to get a seperation agreement or file for D. Since I wish to do neither until I absolutely HAVE to, I think it is wise to keep tabs on what H is doing with our money.
You've been told by your attorney what you must do to protect yourself, regardless of what you'd like to do. No amount of snooping is going to protect your finances. And I disagree, you certainly can come across stuff that will hurt you and haunt you.
