I keep up with your thread, and am filled with admiration for your perseverance and faith to follow through.
In the end, your H never left home, he is still with you, he has shared with you much of what went on with OW, and those are all positive things. He is also expressing affection and some remorse/regret. That can't be bad either. I would take Ellie's advice to heart, she's the one who's been there, done that, and got the T-shirt, although I don't believe her drama played out over such a long period of time.
Is there any way you can involve your H in sharing books, like the Five Love Languages, After the Affair etc, so he gets to hear what your needs are? And what his are right now?
Sending good thoughts your way,
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
