Deb - unfortunately, your H's professional bent keeps him from seeing the obvious - which is that he has clinical depression, which is a BIOLOGICAL illness. He really should be seeing a doctor, and should also be evaluated for some of the possible medical causes of depression (okay, hate to sound like a broken record, but - thyroid disease? Anemia? Check testosterone levels? Prolacting levels? Diabetes?). If they find nothing, he should really give anti-depressants a try! I know, he thinks he can "think" his way out of everything. That everything is caused by his situation. But just because you're paranoid doesn't mean they're not out to get you, and just because your situation is stressful doesn't mean you don't have a biological cause for your depression.
