yes, we've got to get on the same page financially, but I'm not sure how to do it. for all his belly aching, he has nothing to do with it, and wants nothing to do with it when push comes to shove. I am pretty sure he doesnt even have a clue how to reconcile a check book. I have always done a written budget, in black and white, with expenses planned ahead, etc., and for the most part he always gets irritated about any mention or discussion of it money, just he doesnt like being in debt.
I guess I should have ran when we were dating and he said, "oops, I'm over drawn, guess I'll have to call my dad and have him put money in my account". he never learned to budget, or needed to, and so here we are.
I really don't want to add it to the house, but it may be a consideration.... I actually picked up Dave Ramsey's book, havent gotten it read yet and don't have the workbook, our rinky dink book store didnt have it, so I'll need to order it.
I think I will at least talk to CCC, don't know that it will help, but it can't hurt.
Yep, mortality is staring him full in the face since he turns 51 next weekend. I know for the last 10 years at least his birthdays have been pure, hateful hell. We almost always have a big ugly fight, didnt last year though, probably because of the damned affair.
Quote: (I'd love to see an accounting of how much money his affair cost!)
I guess this is part of what makes me crazy. I know how much his damned affaird cost (except for what HE put on HIS credit cards) because I do the taxes and have to go through all the cancelled checks and got to see them all lined up for the last 2 years....it cost in the neighborhood of 200 - 300 bucks a week. he would never believe it even if I showed him, but I've seen it in black and white on the checks he wrote for "cash" and "extra"....and he talks about how the poor woman is so good at making ends meet on her pittance...yeah, right. I will say this though, that is EXACTLY when our other debt got "out of hand" from trying to juggle to cover everything. Frankly, when I think about it, I'm amazed it isnt worse than it is, with all that going on and D in college and childcare for S...In fact, it's a damn miracle I was able to hold it all together.
Guess that's my vent for the day. you are right about the validating, I will pound it into my head to do that. Of course, I gotta get the urge to choke him out of my head!
