Hi Deb, I saw your wise responses to Finally free (what an eye opener!). I have not read all your story, but it seems you know a lot about this stuff. If you have time, could you please let me know what you think about my sitch? I'm in MLC forum. To make it short, my H left to live with OW (never told the kids), came back 4 months later, stayed in contact with OW by text messages. I knew he was (is) still in MLC, so I tried to have no expectations. H depressed and moody until December, after that things have greatly improved. H still not touching me, though. He has been home for 5 months now. In Dec. I found out H is sending messages to OW2, discussing his lack of feelings for me. I suspect an EA evolving here. I'm trying to decide what to do. H doesn't know I know about his messages to either OW. I'm just acting as if. I used to be controlling (thought I was helping him), I stopped all that when he left. H is now very kind, we share fun moments as a family and just the 2 of us (at home, no dates as such). I wouldn't be worried if there wasn't those messages. Was your H involved with OW when he came back home and how did you handle it? Of course it's different if it's someone they already had the A with. I'm not sure what to do as my H and this OW2 have not gone very far yet - should I do something or not. Dauphine
