oh yeah, knew I forgot something. Tuesday night, H's new Nat'l Geographic came. has a cool article in it about love, actually mentions Helen Fisher's research. H and I discussed it for a few minutes at the dinner table as he thumbed through it and read bits aloud to me. I told him what I knew about her research (which he would not hear/listen to before when he was in his "monster smitten" stage) and sure enough, there he found it in the article. He took the magazine up to his dresser, where he stashes such things. I paid no attention to what he was doing, knew he was going to go do the treadmill, so I went to do crunches in the family room (gotta have TV to get through some stuff) and h actually came in to me and commented that the article mentions that the research it quotes shows that the strength of the infatuation stage is not a reliable indicator of the postive potential for bonding/love in a long term relationship. Interesting. h was obviously still upstairs reading, and it hit home with him to the point that he felt the need to seek me out and tell me about it. weird. not sure why, what he was thinking. i'd guess he's still mystified by the strength of what he felt for monster, and found it reassuring that it's not a reliable basis for anything. I somehow understood that his intent was positive, to reassure me in some way as well as reinforce something for him.
Interesting article. Doesnt go into a lot of detail, but it indicates that my own research/literature review of the effects of oxytocin on increasing pair bonding was right on target. Plus, my "plan" to utilize my information!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
hehehehe. talk about unromantic. Find specific information. formulate a plan to use that information to get the result you want (or at least try!).
What? who me? manipulative?????
check out the article though....Fisher's recommendations???? fake it till you make it (my mental mantra for the last 2 years); ml and kiss as much as you can, and you are likely to find yourselves falling back in love because of the well documented effects of oxytocin. NOT the dopamine rush that comes with novelty/infatuation.
