eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee, my head is spinning. I talked to H when he stopped by my office on his way home. I am just flabbergasted.
Quote: it still sucks that H is so interested in oW that he even cares about what she's doing
You said it Ellie, that in itself drives me nuts. I KNOW he still has interest or he wouldnt be paying any attention. sigh. And I feel like any kind of deal I make about it is likely to just "stir up" more of it. Bigger sigh.
I am still astounded that monster carries on as much as she does with all these guys. I believe H is kind of in a state of shock. hahaha. what is it we say about snooping here on these boards? of course the shock means the interest is still there. sigh again.
H said what he found was that monster and this other male coworker have been exchanging 15-20 emails per day going back as far as march. everything before that is erased. but H says she uses the same expressions and pet names with this guy she used with H, the same subjects, (ones designed to evoke pity...her D, her sadly boring vacations)....H commented that "T (male coworker) knows how to write love letters"; said one even said how much he was wanting to see her, that his wife was having an ovarian cyst removed but "all she'll be doing is sleeping". OH Wow. kinda sounds like when I had 2 surgeries during all this and H would take off the day after to go see monster.
H looks kinda sick and shell-shocked. I asked him if he was upset, and he said not really, it just helps to quench any romantic notions a person might have left over (yeah, I know, that "interest" of H's. sigh again). H commented "how could you ever trust anyone like that?" --beats me. Then he said he would bet that if you dug further there are others here, but he's "seen enough". H commented that he believes she is not interested in a relationship, but in the "game", in the chase and conquest and in "beating out" the wife. I told him it reinforces for me my impression that when I feel like she is being discreetly "in my face", that I'm right, it's exactly what she's doing.
That monster used to say how she "didnt feel right" using the company computer to email H (yeah, right, it must bother her terribly) and that she would say she didnt have time to email much ....H said "yeah, right, she was so busy emailing all of us she couldnt keep up".
I asked H why he logged into this particular guys "stuff", and he said "because they're such buddies, I just had a gut feeling" (uh, yeah, duh, I'm real familiar with those). H believes there are/were at least 3 other guys here besides himself and this guy. I'm guessing he's probably right.
I am just amazed. isnt that incredible?????????????????????? sicko
Ellie, you mentioned:
Quote: If you know this guy's wife, do her a favor and got to her with your story. Wouldn't you have wished someone had clued you in earlier so you could have tried to p[rotect your H and your marriage?
I have thought and thought about this. and thought some more. I dont' believe I have ever met his wife. I know his sister -- she was one of S13's teachers, and his mother, she was in a support group I used to facilitate. But have never met his wife. How would I say this to someone I have never even met?????????? I truely don't know.
I am so amazed I can't even think straight. I know there were things about the weekend I was going to post. I want to try to remember them and get them down before I permanently forget.
Quote: I'm glad that every time he does, he keeps finding more evidence to convince him he wasn't that special.
Thank God that's what he's finding. It would be a lost cause if he was finding evidence that she truly was a helpless, lonely single mother hopelessly smitten with the handsome guy in the office next to hers so that she just couldnt help herself. Which is what she told H (yes, that IS the sound of me puking)
