Hi all, I've been away for a week, just now getting a chance to update. seems like quite a bit has been going on, hope i can recall to jot it down.
I keep getting bits and pieces of contact H has with monster, I guess it's good that he shares, although I havent had much contact with him today, and I'm not sure how good it was, will detail that later. so, lets see.
Evidently last week when monster told h to get a divorce and come back, there was more discussion. it has come out in his talking that she told him she would put "their" ornament on the tree, that she'd dump new bf in a heart beat, that she has never told new bf ILY. H commented to me "but she f---'s him though, that's kinda sad".; H commented that "she really is trash" ??????; when we went to church her mother was parked close to us, and H commented "monsters mommy, the mother of the monster. Guess I shouldnt be mean, she's probably a nice person, but things must have been really screwed up in that family for monster to turn out like she is". H told me that when I ran into monster in the craft store early last summer ( I think it was early) she told him that when she went to her car, she found a dead cardinal beside it. Cardinals are her favorite bird because they were her Dad's, and she took it as a sign that they should be apart....sounds to me like a pathetic pitch on her part to suck him in out of pity, but oh well. H commented that "at least I won't be buying gifts for monster this christmas, that'll save a little" and proceeded to tell me what he's gotten her before: one of those snap up "snuggly" quilt things; a sweater with a cardinal on it and a turtle neck that goes under it; another sweater for a b-day, and contacts for another b-day.
I dont' know why he needed to tell me this, some kind of confession or something???????? kind of ticked me off.
He commented that he couldnt understand why she would think he'd want her back if she'd been f-----g somebody else ???????? that she'd made a point of the "not told him she loved him" deal...then H made a comment of it being like Shirley Glass said (ah ha, he has been reading Not Just Friends!) took me a while to recall, then I said "oh, yeah, that women are more upset by the emotional involvement of an affair, men by sexual involvement" and H said "yes, she's looking at it from a guys point of view"...this made no sense to me, but I"m sure that's what H said, jotting it down here so I can recall later if need be.
H told me one night last week in bed that he loves me more now than he ever has ????????.
ML Thursday night and Friday afternoon, at his initiation.
A week ago today, I had the really nice loving emails from H, and then I thought he became more distant, so I've kinda gone "grey" a teeny bit, and will post details later, not sure it's the right thing to do from the response I'm getting, but....wednesday last week, he seemed kinda "lukewarm" in his emails, so I let them go unanswered pretty much all day. Got this from him at 4 pm:
Quote: Are you there? I haven’t heard back from you since my last e-mail? D
then I responded briefly and "lukewarm"...
So, kinda business as usual till we get to Friday, then "weirdness" seems to set in, don't know what to think of this:
Friday, I usually get off work at 11:30, go home and have lunch with H and then we "nap"/snuggle because that is our "alone time" while S13 is at school. last Friday, D wanted me to meet her for lunch at 12:30; she also wanted H to go, of course he absolutely refuses to do anything like that still...drives me nuts, but anyway. I asked him in the morning before I left for work about it, and he said "no", again. So, I ran an errand when I got off then went to meet D...didnt go home or check with H....When D got there, she was surprised her dad wasnt there. said she had called him and he'd said "we'll try" ????????? WTF ever that is supposed to mean. Evidently he assumed I'd be coming home before meeting her, and trying to persuade him to go. sooooo, D was disappointed and surprised, I told her I'd not bothered to go home since he'd said "no", i let that stand and don't beg him about stuff anymore. I got home about 2, H was upstairs in bed (would have been our normal "snuggle time") and said he'd missed me. I told him I'd just gone directly to meet D, thinking he wasnt wanting to go. don't remember what H said.
That after noon I went into town, and H said "don't be gone long, I don't like being here alone". Weird, I don't know what to think of that?????????????????
