Deb, Bless your heart! Your anxiety is apparent, but so is your determination! Yay for you!
I read your post and thought "boy, Deb is her H's best friend. Just that he feels he can share so much with you is amazing. I know it's hard, but he thrives on your acceptance, even when he's struggling with monster. Looks like he's learning to keep her in her place without you demanding it!
