Hi Deb, For what it's worth, I have to say that I totally agree with MollieW. The more that you let yourself get anxious about all of what monster IS or IS NOT doing, the more power that you are giving to monster. For me, there was a point and time that I just "decided" to let it go. And I did! It took some time, but My H finally began to see that and it resulted in many improvements between my H and I.
Also .. you have to figure out a way so that your H knows you don't want to hear anymore about monster. I don't think that the both of you focusing in on her so much can be healthy?
Just my two cents.
Take care .. Keep on keeping on with all of the wonderful changes you have made!
