This is an incredible conversation, and it has given me a lot to think about. I'm not ready to move to Piecing yet, but reading about your experiences will help me when it's time to make the move.
Quote: What I understand from Betsey's post is that there comes a time when we have to communicate our feelings and fears, without blame or judgment, and then step back and allow the other person to choose whether or not they are interested in solving it together, or not.
I think this comment describes the step that we all take when we move forward on our individual paths as well as the path of our R's particularly well. When we stay in the "bubble" described in a thread above, we are actually incubating the same problems that got us here in the first place. Moving to Piecing must be thrilling and terrifying at the same time. It means really putting comfort zones aside to charter new territory. It also means staying patient while your S catches up with you in terms of learning how to communicate, etc.
