Quote: If I grow and flourish because discomfort pushes me there, what makes this not true for others? And if this IS true for them, why would I set up communication to alleviate their discomfort (thereby alleviating mine) and have any faith that growth would occur? Basically, I'm denying them the wherewithal to grow and change with me... just because I'm uncomfortable with the conflict that it presents.
I used to do this enabling with my H all the time. Is it any wonder that poor communication--or lack of honest communication--caused distance between us? Neither of us was really saying what we felt. Thanks for your wisdom, Betsey.
Slowly, I think I remember you saying on a past thread that NG has never actually admitted to you that he was involved in an A--is that correct?
