Thank you thank you thank you for this post! I can't tell you how much I needed to see this last night.
Quote: He's a guest in my reality - I control myself.
This quote is what greeted me when I read your post. My thread has gotten locked up and I don't have time to start a new one yet, but I just confirmed yesterday that SO did indeed have an affair during our first R.
My apologies for the hijack, but I just wanted to thank you for helping me keep my wits about me last night. I don't think we always realize how we touch people on this bb, and I wanted to be sure you knew.
