Quite a lot happening here in my world. I have finally decided it is time to leave my employer, after 9.5 years
The company is changing, or I am, and the fit is no longer there. Right now, I'm staying focused on wrapping up some projects I had promised clients I will take care of, and come January, it will be a difficult conversation to be had.

By then, I will also have heard if I am accepted into the Philosophy post grad, and so I may well only work part time. NG is being supportive, which is comforting. At 41, I am embarking on a new life. For the past 19 years, my life has been defined by going to work from 9 to 5, so the change will be both scary and exciting. But for now, I want to also think about what is happening on the personal front.

What is happening that I want to continue to happen?

NG is no longer in an affair. He spends so many of his hours right in front of my eyes, it will be impossible to have another relationship

NG is happy, in fact actively seeks out, opportunity to work from home. Two years ago, he would have sworn it was not for him, that he did not want to clutter home with work. And here we are, with him going into the office only when I have to as well. Should be interesting to see how long we can keep this up.

NG is sharing a LOT more of himself, how he feels, what's news with his mum and siblings and about stuff at work. A more talkative NG is more than fine with me

We make time for 'us' more deliberately, instead of drifting from one task to another. We hold hands a lot more, even when asleep. Oh this is getting soppy

How have the changes in our relationship affected the rest of my life?

Well, I no longer take anything for granted. It has made me more appreciative of the people in my life, and the many, many blessings I enjoy.

Consequently, I feel more, the joys and the sadness. This is not to say I was unfeeling before, but just that I am more 'aware' of what I feel, and why. I suppose I stop to reflect more often, as is necessary in being a solution detective.

Overall, I like my life more now than before dbing

Slowly

A Liberal Allowance of Time