Martha - Indeed, I'm sure grace gets more comfortable with age, perhaps we become more humble and accept our limitations
WCW - Some of this is acceptance, and at least for me, the other part of it is buying time, and doing so in a contented manner. I have been thinking about H2H's excellent question, which strikes at the heart of this.
amd - delighted to have you along, hope you are enjoying the solar
And dear H2H - I do believe much of our upbringing conditions us to look for an outcome, for closure, when in fact, sometimes the better strategy would be to let things be, even if only for a while.
Though I am wondering what that will look like, what does it mean in the day to day.
Actually it was an episode in our attic last week that got me on this track. I'm an avid jigsaw puzzler, albeit with mixed results, sometimes I finish the project in good time, and sometimes the pieces hang around our coffee table for literally weeks. I used to get wound up every time I saw the unfinished puzzle, till about a year ago I just got a flexi felt roller, and wrapped away the partial work, intact, for a later date. In fact my brother has now taken it to his place for entertainment during his leave.
My point? By dwelling on the 'unfinished' I was stressing myself out unnecessarily. By deciding to put it aside for a while, I made my environment more pleasant, and myself happier. In all likelihood, I would have finished the vexing puzzle over the Xmas break, but in the end, my brother is now enjoying the chase to finish.
I see many parallels - what I may obsess about now, in six months may either solve itself, become a non-issue or whatever. For now, I can enjoy what is positive in my life, which thankfully, is a lot
