Over the past week it struck me that I am trying to tie up everything in my life in neat little ribbons, when in fact there will always be open ends. As I put in some elbow grease to look back at 2006, and figure out where I want to go from here, learning to co-exist with the unresolved seems to be a thought worth holding on to.
Will you join me in my conservatory as I try to take advantage of every bit of sunshine this cold winter?
Quote: Over the past week it struck me that I am trying to tie up everything in my life in neat little ribbons, when in fact there will always be open ends. As I put in some elbow grease to look back at 2006, and figure out where I want to go from here, learning to co-exist with the unresolved seems to be a thought worth holding on to.
Will you join me in my conservatory as I try to take advantage of every bit of sunshine this cold winter?
Slowly
Absolutely
Open ends are good, they keep us on ur toes.
How old are you slowly When I read your posts I imagine you to be in your 20's ... but vaugly remember you've been married for 19 years? ..
Sometimes I think being over 40 helps my sitch...it makes it easier to forget things, and that includes the dumb or crappy things that have been said or done over the years. Perhaps there is more grace in middle-age then we've been led to believe?
I was having these same thoughts for myself. Maybe my life/marriage/relationship is as good as it's going to get for awhile, and I have to just accept it rather than push it and end up in the wrong direction. Thanks for reinforcing those thoughts.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
Quote: ... learning to co-exist with the unresolved seems to be a thought worth holding on to.
Thanks Slowly - a thought I too need to hold on to. Though I am wondering what that will look like, what does it mean in the day to day. After much time here on the board I am now able to catch myself pushing for an outcome, for clarity, for an answer to a burning question, but I am not always so good at gracefully coexisting with that itch within . . . I'm going to ponder this one for a while.
Martha - Indeed, I'm sure grace gets more comfortable with age, perhaps we become more humble and accept our limitations
WCW - Some of this is acceptance, and at least for me, the other part of it is buying time, and doing so in a contented manner. I have been thinking about H2H's excellent question, which strikes at the heart of this.
amd - delighted to have you along, hope you are enjoying the solar
And dear H2H - I do believe much of our upbringing conditions us to look for an outcome, for closure, when in fact, sometimes the better strategy would be to let things be, even if only for a while.
Though I am wondering what that will look like, what does it mean in the day to day.
Actually it was an episode in our attic last week that got me on this track. I'm an avid jigsaw puzzler, albeit with mixed results, sometimes I finish the project in good time, and sometimes the pieces hang around our coffee table for literally weeks. I used to get wound up every time I saw the unfinished puzzle, till about a year ago I just got a flexi felt roller, and wrapped away the partial work, intact, for a later date. In fact my brother has now taken it to his place for entertainment during his leave.
My point? By dwelling on the 'unfinished' I was stressing myself out unnecessarily. By deciding to put it aside for a while, I made my environment more pleasant, and myself happier. In all likelihood, I would have finished the vexing puzzle over the Xmas break, but in the end, my brother is now enjoying the chase to finish.
I see many parallels - what I may obsess about now, in six months may either solve itself, become a non-issue or whatever. For now, I can enjoy what is positive in my life, which thankfully, is a lot
Slowly
When I read your posts I imagine you to be in your 20's ... but vaugly remember you've been married for 19 years? .. 
