Just chiming in; I think the card idea is a good one.
As for Christmas presents, I didn't initially intend to buy H. anything, but I have picked up a few things to give to him. I just felt like if I got him nothing, that would send a much bigger (and negative) statement than if I picked up a few things I thought he would enjoy (nothing romantic or such). I may sign all the tags "to H. from the pets" though!
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
