We've been married less than three years. I've tried since the 4th month to discuss the problem.
I've come to the conclusion that he has an aversion to normal female secretions. At the age of 43, he has a huge lack of knowledge the female body. I used to think it was funny how he misused certain terms. (Like when he said one night, in the heat of passion, how he loved being inside my clit!) I don't think he knows my clit from my little finger! I've tried to kindly and gently educate him. He act like an embarresed Jr. high school boy. I bought some tastefully done sex instruction video's about a year ago. He recently let me know that he did watch about 5 minutes of one. I asked him how did it make him feel. "What do you mean?" he asked. I asked "Did it interest you, turn you on, gross you out, did you learn anything that you didn't know? ... I didn't get at straight answer. He just grinned like an idiot and acted embarressed as usual.
I know what I need to do. I need to withhold pleasing him until he gets the message. Right? I've been trying to show him how to love for three years. I'm tired of feeling like a cat in heat. One "O" per month is not acceptable. And as for the douching, I never did that (I'm a RN, I know the health risks and benefits) Its only because of his attitude toward female secretions that make me want to "sterilize" myself. I don't feel dirty, he just thinks I am.
I wonder if there are any aversion therapy techniques that would cure him.
Does anyone feel that there is hope. I'm too young to give up good sex.
