While I was reading your post, I have to admit that my first thought was, “Let’s swap”, but we all know that isn’t the answer to anything. It’s just that your H sounds just like my W. We haven’t tried the “your turn then my turn” thing the way you describe, but every encounter is her turn then mine. What struck me the most was the part about him not liking female parts. He thinks girls are “icky”. W has the same feeling about men. She’s an enthusiastic recipient of oral, but the whole idea of her doing it to me is “gross”. Her idea of good sex is for me to go down on her until she has her O, then reciprocate by giving me a handjob, preferably with a rubber glove. Just kidding about the rubber glove; she’s never used one. But judging by the way she reacts when she gets a little on her, I don’t doubt that she would like the idea. IOW, you’re NOT alone here.
Lil already asked, but let me repeat a couple of questions. How long have you been together? How long have you been married? Was it always this way? If it was different before, when did things change? Have you talked to him about this? Is he aware of how much this bothers you?
I also have to say that there were a couple of things in your post that really bothered me – both in the same sentence. The douching is one. If you believe it’s too frequent for good health, then cut down. Your sex life is already unsatisfactory; doing something you believe is detrimental to your health in order to get something unsatisfactory just doesn’t make any sense. The trying “really hard” not to get wet is another problem. Besides the obvious fact that it forcing you to concentrate on something other than enjoying the experience, it’s also screaming that he only likes it when you’re not aroused. What gives with that?
