Good thinking on playing to his ego about the other folks wanting him to come along. Not necessarily pursuing or being needy but making him feel good and opening the door to the two of you having some positive experiences together with little pressure.
Seems that the families can often do more to hinder repairing a R than helping...not that they don't have good intentions. I like the way you used their energy to your advantage. Very smart!
I'm glad that you have been able to detach a little bit. Will surely help you to enjoy the holidays a bit more.
