I had to jump off before saying that I was just throwing that out there from my experience and it may not relate to your sitch. I just remember how the fear and embarassment kept me prisoner and that might not be the case for you at all, but I get so much from what people share on here, I thought I'd mention how I pretended things were fine for so long.
I think it's admirable that you're protecting you and your H's reputation the way you are!
You can call me Sheila. I should probably change my screen name!
