Hanging on/The Long Haul

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Thanks Opti. No advice needed for this I guess. I knew it would be coming, he's been overspending for too long. I have verbalized it to him but have not gone into a fit of rage about it. He knows very well that money matters have always been an important issue to me, I grew up with a very loving mother but no money. When H works he makes good money. What I am not positive about is if it is just a matter of the months he was off, the fact that he is still not working as much, or if he is working and hiding/stashing money. I hate to think that way, but that would explain his need to keep his day to day schedule so private also. I have another worry, I came across a deposit slip for a bank that I am not aware of any account we have there. Not sure what to do about that yet.

I think spending money makes H feel powerful. It makes people look at all his things and go 'wow'! What they don't know!

I think that H had to come to this realization on his own of being broke. Just bouncing a few checks wasn't a big enough shock, it had to hit him harder than that. I am pretty sure his monthly bills are not being paid, such as credit cards, etc. But again, is he stashing cash for an escape rather than paying bills? I also believe that if we can talk about our finances and make a plan we can dig out of this and be fine. But it will take both of us working together to make it happen. Just as with the emotional side our relationship. Something has to happen to jar this guy into reality, maybe that has happened this week. I also believe that if we can talk about our marriage and make a plan we can dig out of this and be fine. But it will take both of us working together to make it happen. I can't do it by myself, and he knows that.