Quote: In my case this EA my W was involved in evolved into a full fledged PA. This was caused by a large degree by my inability to see the signs and if I did ignored them and continued my ways of driving a wedge in our M.
I can relate to this. In my case, my H.'s affair began as friends, then PA, THEN EA. It is 8 mo. long now, and although there have been some signs of trouble, he has not ended things.
I knew something was wrong, but he was what they call "gaslighting" me the whole summer--making me think I was paranoid, constantly telling me there was no one else (lie), and making me feel guilty for doubting him, that he just needed "space". The signs were all there, but I was a woman who though this would never happen to "us". I was completely wrong.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
