Exactly. He's already not giving you much to work with, don't expect him to now start communicating to you what he'd prefer with the counseling either Take charge of this.
FWIW....I think just about every one of us HDW's has written a post almost verbatim to what you just wrote about him not giving input. This is where you take the bull by the horns and take charge of your M.
Take charge of this.