You can learn things by going to the C on your own. A good C can give you tools to help you deal with the situation and give you new ideas on how to approach it. You would be surprised at the changes that can occur simply from one person going to counseling.
The way I see it is this...if you keep asking his permission to do things and don't do them if he says nothing...he's not going to take you very seriously, my H didn't. It comes across as though it just couldn't really be THAT important. Know what I mean? Not to mention that if he's not too keen on the idea of counseling, but would go if you pushed the issue, his not answering and you not following through on it....just lets him off the hook.
We, as the person actively trying to fix the sitch, often read too much into someone's lack of response. Instead of reading no response as a "yes", we often take it as a "no", but they didn't say either...so why not assume it means "yes"? In fact, I've read others on here say that if your SO doesn't respond to simply tell them that "ok, by not answering I'm going to take that as a yes." I tried that a few times with my H and it did get a response...you might try that with your guy too. I don't think people expect that a lack of response will be taken as an affirmative answer, they assume it will be received as a no most of the time....so when we say "ok I'll take that as a yes then" you are more likely to receive some type of feedback that might lead to a conversation, at the very least you'll get an answer
