Gel...we haven't been to counseling yet. I have asked him if he would be willing and he responded by not saying anything as usual. I figured with the added expense of christmas I would wait until after the holidays. I was looking into his insurance. And if not mistaken it looks like it will cover some of it. So I am going to make the attempt to ask him again. The thing with my husband that is so frustrating is you can ask him things and he just completely ignores me. He won't say a word. He acts this way with subjects he doesn't want to talk about. LOL I could ask him the scores of the NFL games and he would talk and talk and talk.lol