I really hope you are paying attention to the responses you are getting regarding OM and these guys at work. People are being honest with you on how this appears, and how you appear to be motivated to seek out attention.
Take a step back and be honest with yourself.
Why didn't you just tell the guy who asked you out that you were married? Just a gut reaction from me here....but you didn't say that and that leaves it open for the guy to ask you again, why?
