So how does flirting with other men hold up your end of the agreement, and what does my situation have to do with you? You are trying to turn the argument around, which is a common tactic. Stop it and focus on YOU. All you are doing is focusing on him. It’s easy to do and I would really prefer to do just that myself (focusing on my wife’s faults, which are many) but it doesn’t help me move forward.
I didn’t say your making requests of him was selfish, but your making requests and not reciprocating on your end is selfish, especially after sticking the other man in his face. You may not flirt with other men in front of your H, but I doubt he is ignorant of this part of you. And you are still doing it to feel good about yourself and get back at him.
You are the one on this board. You are complaining about your R. It sounds like he is content to let things die. You know he has already detached from the relationship. Your reply is all about what you are entitled to. He doesn’t owe you one single thing. He’s ready to walk out. These are the facts and they have nothing to do with whether I am old fashioned or not. It has nothing to do with me at all. You may not like it, but you’ve got to deal with it. And you are partly responsible for creating it.
If you didn’t go out much while a SAHM, whose fault is that? You had a choice at the time. Don’t blame it all on him. Now you are more aware. Good for you. But stop dredging up the past.
So what are you going to do to entice him to do his part? Maybe getting a 2x4 will help, there are times when I’ve had to use one. You need to decide whether this is right for you. Just know that once you do use it, you’ll have a hard time taking it back. Did id you tell him what you said here regarding the finances? If so, how did you say it? What was your tone? What did he say in reply?
