Perhaps you need to take a look at your own thoughts to and take a look at your own marriage. Am I correct you think unless your wife has kissed your butt and met all your needs then you won't do anything at all for her? To say I am selfish because I asked a couple things of my husband is absurd. Because here is how I look at it....We are BOTH working. We BOTH have children. We BOTH have bills to pay. We BOTH have responsiblities. In my opinion when both spouses work they should both chip in to do their share of responsibilities. The couple calls I asked him to make were for finances he screwed up. Out of the say 10 things we pay a month I asked my husband to pay one thing. All the rest I pay out of my wages. He screwed up that one thing and expects me to clean the mess. And the few things I asked him to clean up were very little in comparison to all that I had cleaned before going to work an 8 hour shift. This is something WE AGREED upon before I got a job. That he would do 50% of the responsibilities in the home. Now that I am working he is going back on his agreement. Perhaps YOU ARE old fashioned that you believe a wife should work and do ALL the cleaning and every other responsibility.
