You could be on to something there also. In the last 2 years I have made a lot of changes. I have grown a lot more independent. As a SAHM my whole life was devoted to the kiddos and him as well. Making sure his dinner was cooked and I did everything and I mean everything. In the last two years I decided I really wanted to better myself. So I went back to school. I have plans in the work to get myself educated even further and have dreams of entering the medical field. My hopes are to start that schooling very close to the summer. I have lost 50 pounds and dropped 6 sizes and am now a size 4. I joined a gym and have been working out. I got this job and am making pretty good money. I have made friends that invite me to go places and do things.
What has he done to improve himself. Well, nothing really. He did say he wanted to work out and get in shape. But he may go once or twice for a couple weeks then stop. Then maybe a month down the road go a couple times. He hasn't lost any weight.(he is about 35 pounds over weight) But I tried to encourage him I thought it was great he wanted to work out. he was ALL for me getting a job. In fact right before I got this current job I was working part time and he thought that wasn't good enough. So he was all for me working. One thing I wanted to clarify to him before I got this job of full time was that we needed to split the house work and outside stuff 50-50. He agreed and said very clearly he would help. More times then not he doesn't help much. In the 7 months I worked full time he has never dusted, or cleaned either of our bathrooms. more then half the time I did the yard work. It has brought a lot of conflict. Because I am tired. I have a physical job and I feel stretched to try to make the time for frinds or anything that I enjoy because I feel there is to much to do. He says make me a list. I make a list and he is pissy about it. I simply ask things of him and he always says he forgets. If I don't have the house clean he makes remarks about how I did nothing all day. It's soooo frustrating.
I guess you can say he is prideful. And I can tell ya he very much seems to be in his pity pot all the time. He doesn't look at the glass as half full to him it is half empty. I am thankful for the things I have in my life. He always seems to be needing more.
