Cally, I have played the part of your husband in this drama before. My wife is good friends with her boss, the principal at the school where she teaches. She has been friends with him for about 6 years. This never bothered me until lately.

What changed? My relationship with my wife changed and some legal problems of his cropped up. There was a very difficult situation going on with the principal at the same time as we were going to MC. I resented the fact that our marriage is failing yet all I heard 24x7 was about "Jim" and his situation. I also resented the fact that one night after having dinner with him she seemed happier than she had been for a couple of weeks. This led her to lie about seeing him the next week as she was sure it would upset me. Of course the lying caused far greater problems that we are still dealing with today.

I guess my point is that your H may not be prone to jealousy but may feel that you are getting emotional support from this OM and that emotional energy should be spent working on the marriage. If all was ok in your relationship this friend may not be a big deal to H. Like I said, the OM in my life didn't bother me a bit when my relationship with W was stronger. I never gave it a second thought. Make sure H feels secure in the R and perhaps this will work itself out. One nore piece of advice. Do not allow the OM to talk about you and your H's R. If it is brought up, simply say that it is not something you wish to discuss with him and let it drop. Discussing your R with another man is getting dangerously close to an EA. No good can come of it.

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