lil......you asked how I would feel if hubby confided in another woman. I guess I kind of know the answer to that. But part of doesn't really know until you are faced with it. But interestingly enough if he did confide in some mutual friends of ours husband and wife. Of course like typical he put everything on me. I told him I hope you did mention that you also bring conflict to this marriage also. So I hope you confided to them about your LL. I know maybe that is mean. But a big part of me resents that he refuses to address this at all. It's like it's not even a problem to him even though he has heard me state this about a 100 times. I also told him that I didn't know we were opening things up to discuss things about our private life. Because maybe this couple needed to hear my side. I know childsih probably. But I have noticed that he rarely contacts them anymore. Until then I had never discussed this with friends or family. I just keep everything inside. With this friend he asked what had happened. He said you seem like a great mom and wife. I had really put my foot down about that time about this LL issue in my marriage. So in answer to that question honestly that was the reason. I guess maybe I thought it would be good to hear a male point of view also. Maybe I was asking to much as a wife to want to have love making be a part of my marriage. I guess I just brought up the age because I think we all have a certain degree of attraction we have. I have never been attracted to younger or older men. Not that much older. I don't know kind of like I don't see red flags because I am not attracted at all. But what if I discussed this personal issue with a girlfriend. What if that girl who was friend was bi-sexual....would that be infidelity also. You said yourself you discussed this issue with a lady you met. Did you see that as crossing boundaries and you wrongly hurt your BF?
I guess I should ad that no friendship or otherwise would ever be more important then my husband or family. If he told me from the start this bothered him I would respect that.
