Mrs NOP, Thanks for posting articles about the book. It was one I wanted to read.
I can see some of each group in me and BB. It depends on the topic, interest, or task each one of us has.
I see owners as having put more into the R and this goes along with your advice to get BB to do more and pay for more things in the R. I gave her the Cable TV bill. Some whys and whines from BB but she said she will pay it. I am still looking for more things/ways to get BB more involved in the M and less focused on her pets.
Lil, I see the things your bf is doing for you is the classic way people think, what they give has 8 points of value, but to you they only have 5 points because you value something else higher that you are not getting. It's like having eggs and grits for breakfast that were not salted. Filling but not as satisfying as it should be.
