Lillie, You are of course right about that. However, I stand by my guilt. My H's sexual indifference doesn't make me less sexy but it sure does mess with both the dynamics of the R, as well as lessen my motivation to continue acting like a RHM. No.....technically he's not making me do anything but it DOES affect the R.
This was one of those things that had almost instant results. I made a conscious choice to build him up with my words, instead of tearing him down (either in anger or in jest). I am not a mean person and I had absolutely no explanation for why I had done this, except maybe some lame FOO stuff and the simple fact that he allowed me to. Yuck.
