Quote: could it be because it puts him - 'in control'
Definitely. Like all humans, he is very aware of when he is being pushed (or even pleasantly nudged) to do something. Naturally, he resists. I do everything I can to encourage him to be the aggressor. Looking back, I can see that he always was the aggressor but that he never chased me. IOW, I was *always* putting out signals, mildly seducing him, trying to turn an innocent hug into something more and yet have it seem that it was all his idea, etc etc ad nauseum. I don't think he's ever been the all-out aggressor, even when he was in a really aggressive period of his life (for instance, the USMC, or one job in particular that stands out). He's just been more aggressive.
And much of his aggression lessening was due to me and how I interacted with him. I took responsibility for that and have knocked it off entirely, as of about 6 years ago. That was not a proud moment--to realize how much I wore him down and that the little nub of a man who was left was not all that attractive and it was MY FAULT. Gulp.
Quote: How verbal/chatty are you guys during ML?
Medium, I'd say. We don't talk about extraneous things, like D3's tap dancing or what we ate for dinner, but we do talk about each other and what turns us on, how much we love each other, blah blah. We talk all the way through the process and MrH, surprisingly, is realllly good at Sex Talk.
Secondly, the pain. It's much better thank you for asking. It is not gone, and I don't think it ever will be. Some days it hurts worse than others. I no longer say a word to MrH about it. At all. I'm sure you can figure out exactly why I've become mum on the subject. It has nothing to do with his state of mind, whether he's on top or not, and everything to do with my hormones, I'm assuming. It is actual physical pain, I could loctae it precisely for a surgeon. It still hurts a bit when I sit down, but it's tolerable. My hair is also growing in and that always adds to a woman's sense of attractiveness, to have HAIR!!!!!! What a year, for the both of us.
Thank you for replying and for the compliments. The board is much enriched by your presence, as bombastic as it sometimes may be.
