he's hard almost every night when I enter our bed.
I was going to say
if he already has a hard on when your are in bed, (sounds like he 'initiated' )then all you have to do is spoon up against him, reach back between your legs and JGI, while usind his hard-on to self stimulate your clit, untill you get you aroused and prepped enough. then insert tab a into slot b with your hands, which is something this guy enjoyed my x doing, and WA-LA another smooth segue.
Well off for my excellent dinner, and to sling legal liquid drugs, for another time filling friday night.
I too used to play a game where I would try to keep myself from getting a hard on as long as possible while x was doing the opposite. Try this with your Mr. H. Tell him you are going to give him a huummer but he is supposed to stay soft ALAP. I bet it has the opposite effect on him.