HP, FWIW, hardness alone is not a quality indicator of desire. There are times when I am hot to go that MrsGGB still has to do some work to get/keep me hard. Many factors go into an E, including physical state as well as mental state. Let's put it this way, how many times have you not been gushing wet at the start of JGI? Unless your mind is there first (and even sometimes when it is), your body and his both may need some revving up to be ready for the big event. Make that revving up fun rather than a chore, and I think a lot of your hang=up about who starts what might dissappear.
